First, the return to online dating. Now I understand that when you're putting yourself out there you also have to be aware that you're also putting yourself out there for criticism. Some guys are just assholes enough to take advantage of your putting yourself out there and make you feel like crap. Case in point, I joined a website, created a profile, and all that crap. Some young little bastard messaged me and his first words to me were, "God u need a makeover". Naturally, I didn't read his message before I looked at his picture, so I was all drawn in by a pretty face. So my reply was "And you need a personality transplant", and then I proceeded to block him, which is why we have those options on dating sites.
But I just wanted to bitch for a minute about something. I have friends who are approaching 30, which is (according to some) "gay death", and I have friends who are well past that mark. Now, lots of young(er) gay guys refuse to date over a certain age (usually somewhere in their early 20s), and don't want "fats, fems, or old guys". Speaking as someone who's reached what you could call "gay middle age" I guess (late 20s), I really take offense to this. Mostly because young, tight, svelte bodies will fade, and rapidly (usually considering the stereotypical party weekends that young guys have), but it can be extended by eating right and spending ungodly amounts of time at the gym. But let's be clear here guys, looks *will* fade, and then what will you have? As I'm fond of saying, "Looks fade, but bitchy is forever". Which is to say, that maybe we should be spending more time on our personalities and intellects so that when we're not pretty, or young anymore we still have something to offer.
Another thing I'd like to mention is rounding. Mostly all the rounding people do and don't do. Dan Savage mentions sexuality rounding, wherein a Bisexual person will round themselves up or down depending on who they're dating. I would like to mention that at some point we all have to round a whole bunch of other things. Mostly regarding age and looks and such. I mean, who really could be considered a 10? Mostly I guess we have a hell of a lot of 5, 6, and 7s running around with inflated senses of themselves. But I think Dan Savage said it best.
I think things would be easier if more people were cognizant of the fact that to get through life, there's going to be a lot of rounding.
I also came across this little video and it made me giggle, so I figured I'd share. Happy Friday!
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